Growing up, I’ve always been wary of girl vs girl competition–I mean, who hasn’t lived through their own version of Mean Girls, one way or another? Back then it was about who was the most popular, had the best hair, the trendiest outfit, the best grades, whatever. Unfortunately this unnecessary competition between girls isn’t just a phase you go through in high school–it follows you into your careers and adult relationships where you just might find yourself making snark remarks about a more successful friend or perhaps overhear co-workers whispering about you.
Oddly enough I see less of this behaviour in daily life than I do online, where people feel free to hide behind the safety blanket of internet anonymity. Don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sick of seeing women hating on other women on social media, bashing exceptionally fit models who are paid to be in top physical shape for being “too thin” or deeming certain celebrities too fat, slutty, outspoken or whatever. Same deal when top fashion bloggers and YouTube vloggers get flack for their jet-setting lifestyles and perfectly curated instagram feeds. Sure, their world travels and luxe closets are envy-inducing, but most of these internet professionals you love (or love to hate) have turned blogging into a full time career. Most of these women have worked hard to get where they are now, yet instead of acknowledging that fact, they are put down for their accomplishments. What gives?
It’s bad enough that we live in a patriarchal society where women are taught to value their physical appearance instead of their intelligence or strength…Worse still, when women break free of the mould and go on to achieve amazing things, they are treated with less respect than their male co-workers. Why then, in a world that already favours men, do women continue to make it harder for each other?
Quite frankly, I see this animosity as a dirty habit that needs to be broken. It’s far too easy to be jealous instead of happy for the success of others, but that doesn’t mean you ought to give into it. Why harbour hostility towards someone who has worked hard to get where they are in life? Yes, they are competition, but that doesn’t mean you can’t admire the fact that they’ve got guts. Personally, I strive to surround myself with driven, ambitious and hard working women–Alpha females if you will–because their unwavering dedication towards pursuing their dreams inspire me to work towards my achieving own.
And so, to end this rather passionate entry, I’d like to give a shout-out to all the women out there who work multiple jobs, who’ve made sacrifices to get where they want to be, who hustle harder when people tell them they can’t–I salute you! Go ahead and flaunt who you are–dress like a boss and don’t ever give a fuck–because you really are your own #GirlBoss.
Photographed by Dora A.
Wearing a thrifted vest, Community bra, vintage leather pants, F21 and gifted bangles, gifted body chain, and Zara heels.